Healing from heartbreak

No one is perfect, nothing is perfect. Things we look forward to sometimes disappoint us, we put expectations on things. So now you're dealing with pain and don't know what to do? So many feelings and emotions running wild through you but you feel stuck.
The relationship you had is in a hard place, and now your heart has been broken and now all you're thinking is what to do now? Image result for heartbroken Don't think you can't move on from this, you can! It may take some time BUT here are a few things you can start with:

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1: Acknowledge the pain
The first step to fixing any situation is to acknowledge the it, shine some light on it. You're human and I think sometimes we all forget that. We forget that pain and other trials and tribulations come along with life. So instead of bringing the issue to light so you can rebuild yourself we bury them. Which is NOT the smartest thing to do. You have to bring it to light so it can be addressed and worked on. 

2:Reach out to the one who caused the heartbreak
I know we don't like to even speak of the hurt and acknowledge the person that hurt you. But the fact of the matter is you have to trust the healing process and talk about it. A lot of times talking to the one that  hurt you opens up the door for healing and also opens up the truth factor. When things go wrong  9 times out of 10 is a communication problem. So now it's the best time to talk it out and see where things went wrong. No one is saying try to work it out but you want to know where things went wrong so they can be addressed and each person can get their feelings and thoughts out. 

3:Take time out for a life refresher
What I mean about a life refresher is just this, don't go and jump into another relationship so fast. Take sometime out and find yourself and work on you. Take this time to get to know you again, once you are in a relationship you sometime lose yourself. You WILL NEVER FIND YOURSELF IN SOMEONE ELSE! It's just that simple as hard as you don't want to believe that it is, IT IS! 
One thing I never understood is when someone is hurt they jump right into another relationship bringing all of their baggage. That's not fair to you or the other person that's involved. So instead of involving someone in your mess take some time out to heal. 

4: Don't beat yourself up
I've come to realization that we all beat ourselves up because we let things go too far or get out of our control. That's apart of life things will get a little crazy and out of our control it's OK! Just don't understand why we get stuck in our pity parties, let's spill our feelings but not stay stuck in that cycle! 

Take it one day at a time and take it slow, not only for yourself but for others who may meet you soon! Also, for your mental stability, jumping in and out of relationship and not working on your feelings first will cause a lot of pain and drama. 



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