Not Losing Yourself In A Relationship!

Image result for losing your identity Have you ever been in a relationship where you completely don't know who you are after a couple of months/years? It's OK, we all have been there and if not you'll get there (hopefully not lol). We get so wrapped up in the other person that you tend to lose yourself and your identity. Eventually when it catches up with you, you began to realize after all this time you don't know who you are. I'm currently dealing with myself. My husband is a military man as a spouse people really don't  know you for who you are. They know you as so and so wife, trust me I know how tedious this can be. I'm my own person and I wanted people to know that. I was In the military as well.  I'm a blogger and professional photographer and I want that to be known and not just "somebody's wife". Image result for i am somebody Now since you've come to the conclusion that this is you and you want yourself back, now is the time to project who you are! Began to work whatever it is you are trying to do. If you sell t-shirts make sure you sell them at full capacity. Make pages on social media, advertise, wear your product! Whatever it is you need to do, DO IT! Now is NOT  the time to sit around and whine. It's time for action and if you don't know what it is you want than you need to start searching. If you like living that way than this article isn't for you! For those who want to be who they are and lose themselves in someone else this is for you! As I said I've been there and I'm currently getting out of there.  I hate that no one knows me for me but as someone's wife.  There's so much more to me than just that and whomever doesn't know will before this year is up! It's up to YOU to change your life and be who you want to be. No one will do it for you and NO ONE CARES ENOUGH TO TRY! IT'S YOUR LIFE LIVE IT AND LIVE IT WELL

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