It's A MOM's World

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     Why do we get so hung up on our pasts? We let our past history dictate how we live our lives and what we will become. It's because we're human and that's what we know, until someone comes into our lives and shows us differently. For some it's too late but for others it's right on time. If you've come from a broken home where there was no clean example of love, respect and togetherness you  tend to follow that example and live that way. Can you change that and live a better life? Yes, yes you can it's all up to you to do the work and make it work. Even those who come from a great environment can sometimes miss out on important things in their households. Just because they have a beautiful home and what seems like a loving family doesn't mean it's always  true. I came from a broken home and was determined not to go down that same road with myself or my children. It wasn't easy breaking what seems to be the norm in my life but it can be done. Y...

Back in January I made a post about having goals and not letting yours go just because you are a mom. Click  Here  to see that post. But I wanted to re-visit the importance of having goals even though you are a mom. We tend to forget about ourselves and later become filled with resentment and anger. I know because I've been there before with my husband and I felt bad because the person I should of been mad at was myself. Even though there were some things I had to sacrifice,  I could of still made plans and followed through with them. So now is the time where you pick yourself up and make plans to follow through with.   First things first is find out what you want to do, what sets the fire of passion inside of you. Once you have that begin to make a plan on how you will get there. what classes you need to take or what job you need to look into. There's nothing wrong with starting over just don't keep pushing it off. Life is way too short to be so unhappy with yo...

We all deal with life our own ways and on our own accords, but why though? Why take yourself through something through things you don't have to go through? It's because people in our lives play a role and with that you begin to play a role as well. NOW is the time we unmask ourselves to reveal who we really are and what we really are! Stop letting people who have no real foundation, no real  place in your life determine how you act and what you do. STOP putting up with the stupidity that others place on you.   People reflect their mess onto others and we being ignorant just think it's all us and we have the problems but in reality that person does. How long will you put up with someone else issues covering you? How long will you wear this mask of confusion, hurt , anger and pain? My answer: until you come to the conclusion that you are truly tired and ready for change. Some of us deal with things just to have someone around. But you're hurting yourself more than you...

Our minds are very complicated and it sometimes plays with us. We will begin to see and believe things that don't really exist. With our daily lives we get so swept up into the constant repertoire of life and our minds need a break from time to time. Normally we have things we do to escape and sometimes we don't. One thing we have to do is mental cleansing, because if we don't we will only break ourselves down and that has no positive side effects. I know things grab at us and we tend to feel we have to put all of ourselves into whatever has our has attention at the moment but we can't always do that and I'm here to tell you what you really need to hear. It's time to find your mental relaxation components and put them to use. You only have one mind and you cannot go out and purchase a new one. Sit down and jot some things about what relaxes you. Ok ok I know we all want the hot beach with Bahamas mamas and no kids around but until you can get there you have to f...

 There's something we all want out of life, I mean I'm sure a huge amount of us do. We don't always think of what we'll lose or could lose chasing what we want. As I was siting writing in my journal it came to me that we will lose something trying to get what we want, sad but true. So now I'm asking you as well as myself what will you sacrifice to obtain your dream?  Some times it'll be friends, relationships and even sanity. I started questioning myself because I'm going absolutely nuts trying to become the best possible version of myself. I know I'm not the only one eating better, working out till I can't see, trying to be "zen" etc. It's draining me mentally and physically and I know I'm not the only one feeling this way. But when will you say no to driving yourself nuts for something that may not even be worth it in the end?   We continue to run on E, but now is the time to put somethings down and stop sacrificing the unnecessar...

Back in 2015, I wrote about  Toxic Friendships  and how to get out of them! In our lives we will come across friendships that we know we don't need to be in but we continue to let these relationships fester and eventually break us down. Now is the time to fix things in our lives so we can be happy.   Everyone isn't here for your journey but they will  definitely  be there for the good outcome. It's up to you to decide who stays and who goes.  Time to re evaluate your space and how much of it you have. Don't get me wrong having people in your life to spend time with and just enjoy is something we all want but we have to make sure we have the right people there.   At certain times in life we may need to spend this time alone so we can get ourselves together.  But if you do have people in your life it's time to make sure they are there for the right reasons. Here are a few things to look for when determining who stays and who gotta go:...

No one is perfect, nothing is perfect. Things we look forward to sometimes disappoint us, we put expectations on things. So now you're dealing with pain and don't know what to do? So many feelings and emotions running wild through you but you feel stuck. The relationship you had is in a hard place, and now your heart has been broken and now all you're thinking is what to do now?   Don't think you can't move on from this, you can! It may take some time BUT here are a few things you can start with: 1: Acknowledge the pain The first step to fixing any situation is to acknowledge the it, shine some light on it. You're human and I think sometimes we all forget that. We forget that pain and other trials and tribulations come along with life. So instead of bringing the issue to light so you can rebuild yourself we bury them. Which is NOT the smartest thing to do. You have to bring it to light so it can be addressed and worked on.  2:Reach out to the one w...

 Have you ever been in a relationship where you completely don't know who you are after a couple of months/years? It's OK, we all have been there and if not you'll get there (hopefully not lol). We get so wrapped up in the other person that you tend to lose yourself and your identity. Eventually when it catches up with you, you began to realize after all this time you don't know who you are. I'm currently dealing with myself. My husband is a military man as a spouse people really don't  know you for who you are. They know you as so and so wife, trust me I know how tedious this can be. I'm my own person and I wanted people to know that. I was In the military as well.  I'm a blogger and professional photographer and I want that to be known and not just "somebody's wife".   Now since you've come to the conclusion that this is you and you want yourself back, now is the time to project who you are! Began to work whatever it is you are trying...

 You're probably wondering why I'm so dead set on goals and following through with them. It's because I had goals and things happened, I got too comfortable and left my goals behind and I'm very disappointed in myself. So to keep others from making this very mistake I'm making it my business to keep pushing the word and hopefully help others not lose sight of what's important! I don't want to say it's never too late to follow your dreams (which is true) BUT why put things on the back burner when you have the opportunity at your reach. Staring you right in front of your face!   It's not going to be easy but it will be worth it! It's time to plan and execute, so start planning and get your butt up and move!

· What are your thoughts on emotional health? L:When I think of emotional stability I think of happiness, peace, and love. I believe that emotional stability is very much a contributor to life. There are times where your emotions can cause you to fail or succeed. Emotional stability can determine the outcome of any situation, whether it be big or small. · Was it something you could openly speak about during your childhood?  L:Growing up my emotions were not acknowledged; I mean I was only a child so what feelings did I have? (being sarcastic) · When things begin to test your emotional stability, how do you deal with it? L: When my emotions are challenged, depending on the matter I may cry and possibly cut off the world. Music is always my go to when I am not in a good emotional state of mind. · Thoughts on seeking counsel? L:I think that counseling is always an option, often talking to a stranger may help more so than speaking to friends and family. I always look...

· What are your thoughts on emotional health ? C: emotional stability means being at peace. Being able to control your emotions. · Was it something you could openly speak about during your childhood?  C: No, I wasn't quite sure of what emotional stability was, but I've there was something wrong. · What were you taught about emotional stability C: Nothing, it was self taught · When things begin to test your emotional stability, how do you deal with it? C: I usually react and think later. As I got older my reactions became more mild. For example as a child I would hurt myself (punch myself, bite myself). Now I might just cry or curse someone out if they bother me depending on how my mood is that day. · Thoughts on seeking counsel? C: I've seen a therapist and went to therapy. But didn't think it was effective. E we talked about my childhood a lot which took up a lot of time and I felt we weren't getting anywhere. I think about of that stuff is a beaux a...