An Interview with Mama Bear: Tabatha

I first started this It's a MOMS world blog in August 2016,My goal is to help other mothers out there and give them a voice as well. So this is why Every month I will be starting interviews and each month you the readers will get to see that other women the same as yourself deal with the struggles of motherhood! Tabatha's Interview begins below:



Interviewer:  How old were you when you had your [first] child?

Tabatha: 20

I: Was it a happy time? If no, who helped (if anyone) you get through it, or did you do it alone?

T: It was a happy time, It was exhausting and stressful but definitely a happy time! I had lost my first pregnancy the day before my wedding so having my son and proving to myself that being a mom wasn't taken from me was the most fulfilling thing I had ever experienced.

I: Wow, that's beautiful. I'm sorry you had to experience such a lost like that before your beautiful day.

I: If you could go back in time would you change anything? If so, what and why?

T: I would have waited. I do not regret my son, he is my world but I did suffer from emotional abuse from his father and in return had to leave. Because of that my son is now growing up in a split home. Although that's very common, I don't wish that emotional struggle on my son.

I: From what I've seen you are a great mother and a wonderful wife, I'm not saying you're perfect I know your heart is full and you're very selfless!

I:  What brought you to this blog?

T: I love Ms. Angel Marie and I love sharing my experience as a mom. It's not always rainbows and butterflies!


I:  Awwww well I love you more!And I really appreciate the continuous support, it mean the world to me. Does this blog help you out?

T: It helps to have a group and hear others' point of view.

I: Is there any piece of advice you would like to share?

T: When you're stressing or worried about if you're a good enough mom, the answer is YES! We all struggle and I'm sure at times we all felt like failures but talking to others and understanding that you are not the only one.

I: What was/is your biggest obstacle as a mother?

T: Having to "share" my son. I feel as though i have failed him miserably. I know ultimately seeing Mommy and Daddy happy is most important opposed to a hellish household but I hate that I don't see him every single day.

I: How do you balance being a Mom, Having a job (if  it applies) and having a social life?

T: My boys are my world. I have two bonus son's and I want to instill the importance of family into them as it was to me. Their biological mother has stepped out and I want them to know it's not their fault. More than any social life, I want them to get through that age when they want to be independent knowing the importance of family. I usually have friends over at the house with kids my son's ages where the kids can all play and the adults play cards or just sit around the table and unwind and just be adults for awhile. I know that there will be a day they don't need me or want me around so I'll just soak it up while I can!!!!

I: Thank you so much for taking out the time to be apart of my very first interview series! I also would love to thank you for following and reading my blog and helping making my dream progress You really don't know how this makes me feel!!!





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