The Most un-followed rule of parenting and why TODAY you must start following it!

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You're right you read the title correctly. I'm going to give you the most un-followed rule in parenting and explain briefly why you should follow it today. You ready? OK the rule is: STOP LETTING PEOPLE TELL YOU HOW OR WHAT YOU SHOULD DO AS A PARENT! Did you really think I was gonna give you rules on how to take care of your children? If you did let me stop you here by simply and respectfully saying Honey, EVERY child is different so there is no rule book nor a manual on how YOU should parent your child/ren. I know I know I know I've searched the libraries, book stores etc scouring the book isle for some sort of book. I've found plenty on what people THINK you should do but those don't always work. See we all are raising different types of little people. Now these doctors and book writers can only give you a vague range of how kids act or what we SHOULD expect from a child at a certain age. Contrary to their belief all kids don't do things the way they THINK they should just because of their age. And that doesn't mean something is wrong with your child it just means your raising them to be different or to think differently than others. Yes I know mama said that she did this that and this when you were younger but sometimes those just don't work. There's absolutely nothing wrong with trying things for yourself. I use to be the same way, asked people what I should do until I realized I have to teach my children what I want them to know and how I want them to behave. So that's when I began to teach things my way. Now I don't have all the answers but I may have a few (that's another post for another time lol). Don't let anyone make you feel bad because they want to try and parent your children because they may have messed up with their own at one point in time. Trust me that 75 year old woman has messed up plenty of times when it came down to parenting her children. She may or may not tell you but she's had to learn on a day to day basis on what to do with her children. We all are brand new when we have our first child. Believe you me I was 20 years old when I had my first child and children were NEVER in my future! I just had my third child a year ago and I'm still learning, why? because each child is different. On  daily basis I'm pulling out my hair asking "Why isn't this working?", I have to remember what may have worked for one child may or may not work for the next, and that's OK! Parenting is a journey and we learn daily. Don't get upset if you don't get it right the first day you try, be consistent, loving and nurturing. After all they're just children, not adults lol. They have to be taught. Take it day to day, step by step and you'll get what works for you and your family. Don't get me wrong taking advice and trying is fine, but at the end of the day you know what works for your family. 

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